I knew Gary from high school, and while I had seen him a few times over the years, I wasn’t real close friends with him. But Bill, who told me about it, has been very good friends with him for over 20 years, hanging out with him a few times per month every month for those 20 years. I can’t begin to imagine how he feels now. He said he’s stunned.
Gary was 45, just a year older than me. Active, he was a hiker, biker, kayaker, and apparently healthy guy.
Then this morning his wife couldn’t wake him up and her life was turned upside down. Sometimes shit just doesn’t make sense.
Too often we take tomorrow for granted.
Problem is, we aren’t promised tomorrow. You never know when you’re going to get pulled from the game, so you better make the most of your opportunity to play while you can.
Life really is pretty fleeting. Hell, suddenly I’m 44. Last thing I knew, I was 24. Time is precious, and we all waste too much of our short time here on stuff that just isn’t that important.
Don’t think so? Just watch the evening news and you can catch up on all the latest negativity and us vs. them stupidity that we engage in every freakin’ day.
If you knew you were going to check out tomorrow, would you really waste today arguing about taxes, healthcare reform, bailouts, religion, steroids, politics, American Idol, the Kardashians, Jon & Kate, or the Biggest Loser?
If today was your last day…
- would you rather spend it bashing the current or former president, or doing something unexpected and special for you son or daughter?
- Would you rather spend it complaining about republicans or democrats, or watching your mother smile when you bring her flowers?
- Would you rather spend it bitching about crap you have no control over, or doing something to help out a friend? Better yet, how about helping a stranger?
Think about the last argument you had with someone. Was whatever you were arguing over really that important in the grand scheme of things? Or was it just more important that you win? Is that win worth the price if it turns out the be the last conversation you had with the other person?
Was whatever you yelled at your child about this morning really that significant an offense? Would you feel the same way if you knew you’d be taken from that child’s life tomorrow?
We spend too much time bitching about crap we can’t control. Spend the short time that is your life enjoying what you have, loving your friends and family, and working for solutions. Don’t waste time bitching about problems. We already know the problems without having to listen to people bitch about them.
Be better than that.
Make tomorrow better than today.
Rest in peace Gary.